"I LOVE YOU, HEART!” - A Few Tips on How to Practice Self-Love

Working on the next version of our meditation cards for kids (very exciting!!), one of the basic themes I wanted to bring forth in this kit was self-love.

The definition of self-love is actually pretty simple:

a. An appreciation of one's own worth or virtue

b. Proper regard for and attention to one's own happiness or well-being

And its application couldn’t be more necessary (just read Why Is Self Love Important?).

Self-love is the key to a positive self-image. It gives us confidence and the belief that we can love and be loved.

When we love ourselves just the way we are, we become greater versions of ourselves. Moreover, when we approve of ourselves fully, we feel motivated to take good care of our bodies and minds and to make healthier choices that are not made out of guilt, a need to please or a desire to avoid conflict.

Self-love makes us more powerful, as we are more committed to our personal happiness and well-being. With self-love we get better at allowing ourselves to make mistakes or to fail and learn from the experience. And above all, practicing self-love is a great way to lower stress levels, helping us to feel more confident in our abilities and inner stamina regardless of how others perceive us.

“After years of individual counseling with clients and conducting hundreds of workshops and intensive training programs across the country and around the world, I found that there is only one thing that heals every problem, and that is: to know how to love yourself.” Louise Hay

Showing love towards oneself should be one of the basic teachings we offer ourselves as the intellectual and emotional beings that we are, and just as important, it is our responsibility to pass it on to our kids.

We know that this was never necessarily on the curriculum at school. More often than not, we were brought up to believe that validation and individual worth come from outside sources, such as school grades, athletic achievements or desired social circles. Self-love is about finding happiness within ourselves just as we are in the present moment, and not relying on any external recognition.

Practicing self-love will not only benefit us on an individual level, but will also make it easier for us to love and accept others. When we truly accept who we are, with all our flaws and quirks, it also gives us the freedom to accept others with all of their flaws and quirks as well. Oh, and just to get this out of the way – there’s nothing selfish about self-love. Remember that you can’t pour from an empty glass.

So, here are a few tips for you and your kids on how to practice self-love:

When you see your reflection in the mirror, smile! And say “I love you” to your reflection. (Hey, why not?)
When you go to sleep at night, tell yourself what a wonderful person you are, how proud you are of yourself and how you like being in your own company (you’re going to love doing this).
When making choices, always consider what will increase your happiness and sense of well-being. You are worthy and capable of good things.
When you’ve made a mistake, acknowledge that you are human and will therefore make mistakes sometimes – and that’s OK.
Tell yourself a few times a day “I love myself completely.” You wouldn’t believe the impact this has.

Have a very happy Valentine's Day!

< Older Post Newer Post >

The Imagine Blog

You’ll Love This: Bedtime Routine With Guided Imagery Meditation

By Meirav Tamir • March 14, 2022

In my last blog I discussed the everyday challenge of going to sleep and how a simple bedtime routine can be a HUGE help. So now a little more into detail with these great ways to make it work! Phase One – Taking Care of the Body Try dedicating the first 10 minutes of the routine to basic actions that prepare the body for hopping into bed, such as brushing teeth, getting into pjs, and snagging a glass of water. Do your best to make sure these happen at about the same time and, if possible, in the same order. And don’t forget to include a cut-off time for electronics – at least 30 minutes before it’s time to fall asleep. Blue light has been shown to limit production of melatonin, a hormone that’s key to maintaining a healthy sleep cycle. Avoiding electronics right before bedtime will help kids fall asleep faster and wake up feeling rested. Once all of this is out of the way, you can move on to the next phase of the routine. Phase Two – Taking Care of the Heart and Mind The second phase, in my opinion, is the best part of the routine, and it actually offers a priceless opportunity for you to create a 100% nurturing experience for your kids . In fact, the content you pour into the next 10 minutes or so will have a life-long effect on them. There are a ton of different things you can do to treasure your time together. You can… Read a book Take turns saying things you’re grateful for Talk about the good things that happened that day Sing a song or say a prayer Say goodnight to family members, friends, the moon, the stars, the birds, or even the trees outside The Guided Imagery Meditation Option If you haven’t before, you could also give guided imagery meditation a try! You might be surprised how fun and calming it is to visualize a pleasant scene as if you’re part of it. There are many different types of meditation you can do depending on your preference: breathing practice, progressive relaxation, mindfulness meditation focused on the five senses, landscape visualization, self-esteem exercises… And the list goes on! Get started with one of my guided imagery meditation scripts: The Protection Bubble . Then you can branch out based on your success. (Many of my customers swear by bedtime meditation!) Keep it short so bedtime remains as consistent as possible, but don’t be in a hurry. Above all, make sure to be present. These are some of life’s most precious moments, so just relax into the bonding experience. The more you give, the more you’ll receive during these positive, soothing 10 minutes. Oh, and try not to blink… They’ll be all grown-up so fast! :)

Making a Successful Bedtime Routine

By Meirav Tamir • March 14, 2022

“My kids always go to sleep so nice and easy!” said no parent ever. Getting your kids to go to sleep every night can be quite difficult, wouldn’t you agree? When my kids were young, I used to feel like I could fall asleep a hundred times before they ever did. And by the time the house was quiet, I was running on fumes. The Challenge – Encouraging the Kids to Sleep Unfortunately, falling asleep is not something that children can do on command, and it can get frustrating for all parties involved when they struggle with bedtime. The good news is that following a regular bedtime routine can turn that difficulty into willingness and even, dare I say, anticipation. Not only does a solid routine help to bring each day to a close in a positive way, but it also contributes to better sleep at night. This will have a great impact on your children’s health and well-being, not to mention your own... Still skeptical that it’s even possible? Perhaps that’s because you’ve never given guided meditation a try. ;) But before we get into that, let’s talk a little bit about the basics of bedtime. The Road to Success – Creating a 20-minute Bedtime Routine All good bedtime routines are built on a few similar and repetitive activities that occur every night at around the same time. But making the routine predictable does not mean it has to be dull (even though that can help with the process of winding down). The magic lies in creating a familiar and foreseeable space that kids associate with going to sleep. This provides young, active kids with a sense of security that gradually allows them to let go of the day and welcome a good night. Best of all, a bedtime routine doesn’t need to be long! About 20 minutes will do for a soft landing :) In my next blog - an easy two-phase process for a successful and fun bedtime routine.

Positive Affirmations and How To Use Them

By Team Imagine • November 3, 2021

“ I am smart and capable. I am kind. I am confident. ” Could something so simple actually work? Absolutely, yes! And when it comes to managing thoughts and feelings, it doesn’t get much easier than positive affirmations. What Are Positive Affirmations Positive affirmations are simple, short sentences with motivating or reassuring content that you can repeat to yourself in order to improve your mood or mindset. An easy yet powerful stress management tool, positive affirmations can be applied to any aspect of life to increase your confidence and help you feel good. When used often enough, they can have a real and lasting effect on the way you naturally think and behave. Tips to Maximize Your Affirmations Say the words “I am” in your positive affirmations. Doing so helps to create a more favorable state of mind – one in which you feel connected to the emotions you want to promote. Focus on the present. Sticking to present-tense statements makes them feel more real and attainable. There’s no need to worry about whether the affirmation will come true because you’re telling yourself it already is. Be specific about your wording. Statements that affirm the feelings you want, such as “I am courageous,” are more impactful than statements that negate your current feelings, like “I am not scared.” Using Positive Affirmations With Kids The wonderful thing about positive affirmations is that there is no limit to their usefulness – especially when it comes to kids. Kids encounter so many different situations each day that test their skills and emotions. Here are just a few examples of times when you can try positive affirmations with your child: First thing in the morning, to start each day with a positive mindset At bedtime, to ease their transition to a restful sleep When facing a test at school or any other kind of personal challenge When feeling an overwhelming emotion, such as stress, anger, or sadness What Positive Affirmations Are Not Positive affirmations are a great tool to train the mind toward positive thinking and emotional regulation. But it is worth noting that all emotions are valid and serve a purpose. Kids should know that it is absolutely OK to feel whatever emotion they are feeling. It’s OK to be sad, angry or stressed, and it is OK to feel overwhelmed. Positive affirmations are not a tool to erase negative feelings altogether, since there are times when those emotions are healthy and necessary. This message can be especially helpful to kids, who tend to see things in black and white. That said, positive affirmations are great any time a person decides they’d like to transition to a new mindset. So next time you or your child feel the need to turn things around, give these tips a try. Sometimes, all it takes is a simple “I am OK right now.”